Taking It All In

I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older that we are all so different in so many ways.  Sometimes it’s irritating because people just do not react with an open heart the way I do and I find that hard to swallow, for example; I’d give you the shirt off my back or be there when someone is down but the same cannot be said for someone else at times.  This use to frustrate me to  no end.


They say don’t expect anything from anyone and you’ll never be disappointed so I had adopted this philosophy and it has served me well over the years.  I notice when someone does step up to the plate, I count it as a bonus and a blessing, but certainly was never expecting it.  It’s the icing on the cake of life.

I think basically it’s all about boundaries.  Recently something rather large and unwanted has occurred in our family and the different responses from each family member are astounding to say the least.  It ranges from highly caring all the way to complete indifference but I noticed this time, instead of getting my panties in a twist, I just sat back and observed everyone and everything, absorbing it all and taking it in.

You know why I have not opened my mouth, but rather kept to myself?  Because it’s none of my business how someone else reacts to an event or happening.  It’s all about boundaries.  If I want people to respect mine, I’ve got to respect theirs and although I’m truly disheartened and disappointed, that’s my baggage to carry around for now.

I’ve seen people say the worst of things at a bad time or the most inappropriate behavior, but I think that happens all the time.  It’s all in how we deal with a tragedy.  Some people just escape into their own head and it becomes all about them.  Others weep openly and are there to pass out much needed love and hugs.  Others are cleaning up a storm and preparing meals for the family, some are saying ridiculous unimaginable things, and others are there for moral support.

I’ve finally learned to sit back and take it all in.  Watching the good, the bad, and the ugly and not even sitting in judgement – just watching how everyone is so different and how each of us handles ourselves so differently.

I’m glad and grateful to be good at matters of the heart.  All the degrees in the world cannot teach you that and for this I am grateful.  I just want to be the best version of myself I can be.  Always evolving and growing, opening up more and more, and continuing forward on to bigger and better things in this life.  And, if all I’m good at is matters of the heart, than I’m okay with that.



Friday I was fortunate enough to tag along to the zoo with my daughter-in-law and my granddaughter.  We had kinda chilly windy weather, a bit overcast- yet, we still enjoyed looking around and absorbing all the wonderful animals in their habitats.

We enjoyed seeing a variety of snakes, a polar bear, chimpanzee’s, a sleepy tiger, a variety of monkeys, camels, sheep, kangaroos (one of which came up to us on the path and was standing 3 ft. from us; scared the living daylights out of my family and I), birds of all shapes and varieties, goats, toads, frogs, turtles, penguins (so cute, and at feeding time), jellyfish, elephants, and much more.


Writing Challenge – Weird Quirks

Day 31 – Weird Quirks I have.

There are too many to list, LOL!

I always have to have a drink in hand, calm down folks- I’m not talking alcoholic beverages.  I always have to have a Propel, water, soda, or coffee in hand.  I am constantly drinking.

I have OCD so I have to leave the same time every night for work (9pm) and I have to stop at McDonalds to get an iced tea to drink.  I wake up at 8pm sharp to get ready for my shift start time of 10p.

I arrive to work 1/2 hour before my shift starts.  It’s a bit ridiculous I know, but it makes me feel “in control”.  It gives me plenty of time to get my desk set up and everything arranged “just so”.

I’m a huge procrastinator.  Leaving even the most important things until the last minute.

My house is disorganized.  I am never able to find anything I need.

I set the cruise control on my car even while driving locally; I set it 5 miles over the speed limit to ensure I never get a speeding ticket.  I drive like a grandma, even when I’m driving the hubs Corvette.  As I get older I notice or feel as if my reaction time is not what it use to be so I get nervous in parking lots driving, I’m afraid I’ll hit someone (think Costco parking lot- busy, busy, busy).

When I do clean, I clean so good that you could eat off the floor- I don’t do anything half ass.

I’m a perfectionist at work, down to every little detail – I must try my best to get it right.

I eat a ton of pickles in one week.  I am highly addicted.

I get really bad PMS (I think it’s more like PMDD) and approx. 8 days before my period I’m a beast.  You don’t want to mess with me 🙂

I HATE exercising and don’t do it unless I absolutely have to – that includes only going for walks, taking the dogs for a walk, or gardening.  All that other stuff; the elliptical, the treadmill, weight lifting, running – it’s not for this girl.  I hate to sweat.

I worry a lot about my kids and my family.



Monthly Writing Challenge ~ Foodies

Day 30.  Favorite comfort food.

I am a “foodie” and love to eat.  Too much so I suppose.  My favorite comfort food has got to be Mexican.  I love anything slathered in salsa and sour cream; from tacos to nachos, to bean and cheese burritos, to fajitas split with my husband out for dinner.  I love chips and queso and salsa too.


What food do you crave?  What is your ultimate comfort food?


Mediterranean Salmon Recipe

Recently on vacation, my niece prepared the following for us and it was not only healthy but DELICIOUS.  The recipe can be found at this web address. (Where you can watch a how-to video and easily print off the recipe).


    • Prep Time: 8 minutes
    • Cook Time: 22 minutes
    Salmon is quick-cooking and full of omega-3 fatty acids. This Mediterranean recipe adds so much flavor to the fish with olives, capers, zucchini and tomatoes.

  • Yield: 4 servings (serving size: 1 fillet and 1/2 cup vegetable mixture)


  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
  • 4 (6-ounce) skinless salmon fillets (about 1 inch thick)
  • Cooking spray
  • 2 cups cherry tomatoes, halved
  • 1/2 cup finely chopped zucchini
  • 2 tablespoons capers, undrained
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • 1 (2 1/4-ounce) can sliced ripe Kalamata olives, drained


1. Preheat oven to 425°.

2. Sprinkle salt and pepper over both sides of fish. Place fish in a single layer in an 11- x 7-inch baking dish coated with cooking spray. Combine tomatoes and remaining ingredients in a bowl; spoon mixture over fish. Bake at 425° for 22 minutes.

Nutritional Information

Calories per serving: 339
Fat per serving: 18g
Saturated fat per serving: 4g
Monounsaturated fat per serving: 9g
Polyunsaturated fat per serving: 4g
Protein per serving: 37g
Carbohydrate per serving: 5g
Fiber per serving: 2g
Cholesterol per serving: 87mg
Iron per serving: 2mg
Sodium per serving: 424mg
Calcium per serving: 43mg

Believe it or not, I had never had a Kalamata olive or capers before this and LOVE them both.  Both add a zest and a zing to this marvelously healthful recipe.



Beautiful Sunny FLA

Recently the hubs and I took our first vacation together.  We went to sunny Florida for a week and had a marvelous time.  He did get sick, however, but was able to sleep at night which didn’t keep us from enjoying our days together ~ wandering the little down of Dunedin:



that we were in or swimming in the pool for a few days.  We also visited the beach of Clearwater and it was sublime.

First we were greeted in our hotel room:

WITH a lovely and unexpected gift basket from my niece “S” and her family:


Loaded with all local things that represent FLORIDA:  Fudge, Salt Water Taffy, Beach towels, an Alligator back-scratcher, Aloe lotion, Sunscreen, A sponge and locally made soap, and more……………    What a sweet and kind gesture, really made our day to be treated so special!

We were treated to a home cooked meal in their house and we were able to meet up several times which included lots of eating out and a dolphin boat tour, and swimming at our hotel pool.  We were able to spend quality time with her husband “C” and their three beautiful children:

Not only did I meet with S & Family but was able to meet a long time (10+ years) blog friend and her boyfriend (also my friend) “B”.

Our first meeting hug was long in the making and one I will always cherish.  We got to sit and have lunch together and talk- but there wasn’t enough time to catch up on 10 years so we’ll have to do this again.  Once again, we were treated to ALL things FLORIDA from this generous couple; Pina Colada nut & fruit mix, Coconut patties, mints, a special tumbler for each Scott and I, PICKLES, Dukes Mayo, local Orange Marmalade, boiled peanuts, a beautiful bottle of white wine, a Southern Living Magazine, and much more:


Here are just a few pics of Scott and I ~ we spent many nights eating out at seafood restaurants and taking in all the beauty that surrounded us:

Lastly I was treated to a very special charm for my bracelet by my husband, the April heart for our 26th Wedding Anniversary this month.


I’m so grateful to my husband for taking me to Florida for our first vacation together.  We had such a nice time.  It was more than wonderful to be able to spend so much time with my niece “S” and her family and to “Phinally” get to meet B&T for the first time.  I’d do it all over again tomorrow if I could.  Loved our visit and cannot wait to go back some day.

Love you so much S & Family and B&T!


Monthly Writing Challenge – Last time I cried

Day 28.  Last time I cried

The last time I cried was in Florida on vacation when I received a call from my sister letting me know that her husband had passed away.  That was 2 weeks ago.  I couldn’t control myself on the phone, I sobbed like a child.  My husband told me “get it together” because he was afraid I was upsetting her.

That’s how I react to death, it strikes my heart right away and I react.  It seems like it’s just too overwhelming to hear and I break down immediately and I cry out all of my tears.  I cry so hard there are no more tears to give.

Then at the memorial service, I didn’t even so much as tear up as others around me are bawling, one even fainted.

We all grieve differently, and that’s what happens to me.