Day 18. What book could you read over and over again?
I’m all about self-help. I could read “Boundaries” When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life written by
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others — Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God’s will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator — Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:
– Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
– What are legitimate boundaries?
– What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
– How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
– Aren’t boundaries selfish?
– Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
Honestly, it’s like getting “FREE” therapy for those who are just unsure of themselves or those who don’t understand how much they “count” or “matter” in this life. It made all the difference in my life and saved me from so much further harm. Not having healthy boundaries and having no self-esteem or self-worth is hazardous to your health. This book was a major wake-up call and I highly recommend it to anyone who needs help with this and more. Well worth the money – it has all the tools of what you would learn in therapy for years all in one neat, perfectly organized, to-the-point book.