This subject FASCINATES me to no end. I’m talking about you and your significant other. That’s right, because inquiring minds want to know. I’m continuously amazed at watching my friends’ and family’s relations ship “type” – no, not interpreting their “Love Language” but more so, .. how they interact with one another and comparing it to how my husband and I function. There is no right or wrong as long as it works for the couple. I just think it’s fun to see and observe 🙂
What I mean is, for example: My co-worker tells me tonight that she’s super over-tired (we work night shift) because after she had only slept for 4 hours today. Mid slumber, her husband came into their bedroom, plopped down on the bed and turned on the t.v. and proceeded to watch. Yes, you read that right. BUT IT WORKS FOR THEM! They’ve been married for 28 years and they dated 8 years before that. Now that would not fly in my house nor would my husband ever even think to wake me up mid-day when I’m sleeping for work. But please, let me reiterate ~ I’m not judging, I’m just fascinated by the yin and yang of it all. Each relationship in such intricate details of what works for them and what does not.
Her husband wakes her up all the time. However, her husband ALSO cooks dinner for her all the time too. While mine would never dream of waking me on purpose, he would also never cook me a meal to save his life
which I have to admit would be really nice.
There are good’s and bad’s in every relationship but what blows my mind is what floats and what doesn’t in each separate one. I’ve known couples that absolutely do not believe in PDA’s whatsoever. They show NO affection toward one another. Zero. Nadda. Zip. I love me some good PDA! LOL!
Another example, when we are at our family Christmas party and my husband hugs me, holds my hands, or kisses me; there is a quick barrage of “GET A ROOM!” from my siblings. They cannot understand how we can still be lovey-dovey after 25 years. To them we are just nauseating. Furthermore when asked who my best friend is, and my reply is my husband, my family just says “Oh no way!” like that’s a mathematical impossibility.
I have another friend whose husband definitely wears the pants in the family but he also goes out on every single family outing they have and does it happily. My husband and I “share” the pants I’d like to think but I often visit my mom or other siblings by myself while he takes a pass and stays home or goes out with his friends. Quite often, my husband and I fly solo. It’s never bothered me yet this other friend and her man do EVERYTHING together – from grocery shopping to the movies and everything in-between.
I have another friend whose husband and her speak rather crude to one another, even calling names in fun. At first, I was put off by it and felt bad for her until I realized that it is their “thing” and she shoots it right back at him with vengeance and they are a very in love, happy couple. In fact, that’s one thing that makes them tick, them constantly giving each other a hard time but IT WORKS FOR THEM.
Do you ever compare your relationship functionality to that of your close friend’s or family? I do and I find it completely interesting how the inner-workings are so absolutely mindbogglingly different yet work for each separate couple.
As for me and mine; what works is that whole mushy-gushy thing we got going. I need him and visa versa. We like to give each other a hard time
him more than me and we like to be tight-knit. We are always on the look out for one another and have each others back. We laugh a lot because he’s funny as hell together and enjoy each others company. When out, we do show PDA and don’t care what anyone else thinks. When we fight, we hash it out right then and there no matter where we are. We don’t sit idly by and let one another get away with shade.
In every relationship there is some give and take; I personally think it’s interesting to observe what is given and what is taken and how it’s then disbursed back into the mix.