Why is it so hard to love ourselves?
We are taught early on to “Love others”. Did that mean we were selfish to love ourselves?
We were taught to put others before ourselves. Did that mean we were selfish to accommodate our own needs?
We were taught to be kind to one another. Did that mean that we were selfish if we were kind to ourselves?
We were taught to “Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” WHERE did “AS YOURSELF” get lost in translation?
Why is there such self-loathing when we are all such unique beautiful beings? WHY do we love and care so hard for others and yet not for ourselves?
Do you think it’s sinful to love yourself? Let me tell ya, it’s not!
I can barely give a compliment to a friend or a family member without them saying “Oh shut up!” or “This old thing? It’s soooooo old!” or “No, I’m fat!” or “My hair is frizzy today!”. There is nothing I can say that is rarely met with a simple, “Thank you.” I find this to be very sad and disturbing.
What do you say when someone takes the time out of their day to give you an honest compliment? Is your knee-jerk reaction to quickly dismiss it? If so, Why? What makes you unworthy? What makes you embarrassed? What makes you so low? Certainly you give out compliments, so why can’t you take them in the way they are intended? From the goodness of someone else’s heart?
Why not instead, take a moment and absorb the goodness of another and just simply say thank you?
Maybe we did perceive some lessons in our younger years to mean that it was sinful to love ourselves because I do not know a lot of people that do love their selves. I’m not saying to kiss your own hand or scream from a roof top, “Hey world, I’m wonderful!” LOL, I guess if you really felt the need there is nothing wrong with that but I’m talking about some general common decency towards yourself. When was the last time you paid yourself a compliment?
What I’ve said here has probably been written a million different ways but it’s on my mind. I just feel that each of us is a precious, unique, gift from God ~ and in the quote, “Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” He specifically says, “AS YOURSELF”. Don’t forget about you in all of this craziness we call life. God meant for us to express our gifts whether it be through singing, writing, drawing, crafting, being a great friend to someone, being sensitive, being kind, or being gracious. Whatever you have that sets you apart from the crowd, and believe me ~ there is something there – express it and put it out there for the world to see so you share the gift you were given. You are special and you count too. God wouldn’t have it any other way, neither should you.