I’ve been happily married for 25 years. It was an unlikely start as I was pregnant with our first by 3 months before we got married and we didn’t even know each other all that well. We had dated for only a short while and there was so much more to learn about one another. I had mental illness that I wasn’t even aware of and he was a great, solid, hard working man. He made me laugh and I was so attracted to his self confidence, something of which I had none. I learned from him throughout the years on how to be proud of myself, how to value myself, how to love myself. It was through his love and dedication that I am who I am today.
He was my protector, my lover, my best friend quickly. I learned to trust for the first time ever. Sure we went through some rough patches, as all couples do but we always came out on top even stronger than before.
I think the glue that hold us together is my husbands sense of humor. Yes, I think I’m funny too but not quick witted like him at all. Looking back on all those years- he just always knew how to make me laugh. I don’t know what could be a greater gift in a person. I would even try to be mad at him but couldn’t stay mad because he always made a joke out of it that had me busting a gut laughing.
I am a big believer in “giving” all that I have to him. I put him first. I figured if he and I were a strong core- than our family would thrive. He and I make it a big point to stay “on the same page” and present a unified front. It’s important with 3 kids.
I hear a lot of wives complaining about their husbands and it frustrates me because you generally get what you give. I just want to say, when was the last time you hugged him and kissed him for no reason and told him how much he means to you? When was the last time you told him that you loved and appreciated all he does for you? Not every marriage is going to last because maybe the husband or wife might just be a huge dick. I don’t know, I just know that when you’ve got something pretty special you can send it into warp speed super sonic love by just investing your time and energy into it. I know that what I give out comes back to me 10 fold.